Is my friend transgendered?

My friend (a girl) thinks she might be transgendered. We've known each other for a long time, since we were little, and are really close. We've always told each other everything. We had a normal friendship, but then around age four, she expressed the desire to wear boys clothing.



So she did. And she was your typical tomboy. Wearing boy's clothes, playing sports, hanging out with the boys--she did it all. It was like this until around the middle of 6th grade (we were both 12) when she thought she might be a little too old for that. She felt uncomfortable wearing boy's clothing and felt pressured to conform to society's standards I suppose. So she gradually stopped dressing like a boy and wore more girly things.



We're both in 8th grade now, and the process of transforming herself into a more girly person hasn't been completed yet. Not so much as in the clothing, but in her personality. She told me that she's been having doubts about who she really is, and her sexuality too. Sometimes, she'll think girls are pretty, but she never has any interest in doing anything with them. But with boys, she's very picky, and selective. She thinks that because she doesn't like most guys whom others think are good looking (Robert Pattinson for example), she isn't straight. She's had dreams about being a boy before, and she was really unsure about the whole idea. Do you think she might be transgendered/lesbian/bisexual/whatever? How do you tell?Is my friend transgendered?
Just because she likes guy clothing, does not make her transgendered. I don't know who determined what is male and female clothing. To be honest, if guys started wearing dresses, that would be absolutely fine by me. I wouldn't think it's weird at all.



It irks me how society is all about being ';normal'; and fitting in. Seriously, you shouldn't worry about that. Having a fulfilled life requires being yourself.



Oh, and just because she doesn't like Robert Pattinson, doesn't mean she's lesbian lol... we all have different tastes. I think she might be lesbian and using that as a convenient way to come out. That's just my guess, though. I don't want to put words in her mouth.



If she wants to wear guy clothes, that's fine. Nobody should give her crap. Please do not encourage her to be more girly (not saying that you are). It's just going to make her feel unaccepted, and that is the last thing a 13 year old girl wants to hear.Is my friend transgendered?
I think she's a normal human being!! You need to leave her alone, and let her decide her own actions/choices in her life. Grow up, and realize you shouldn't transform someone. They should become who they want to be. Don't be a little immature stereotype..
You're in the 8th grade, your friend is still probably just figuring it themselves.
She might be, but YOU can't tell her who she is or isn't.



Its for her to figure out for herself, and it could take some time for her to sort out her feelings.



I would advise her to stay open to possibilities, be honest with herself about who she's attracted to and not attracted to, and not to rush to judgment or to be in a hurry to label herself.
Anything is possible, but it doesn't really matter. The only person it does really matter to is the person involved. And although you might like to help this person, they are the ones who have to figure it out for themselves. Self-acceptance is a very individual thing and can't be rushed. This is especially true for transsexual people, where the process can take years or even decades.



Just continue to be the good, supportive friend that you are, they will appreciate that.
Your in 8th grade! Your like, 13 or something. Alot of girls dress boyish when they are young. I did, and I hate Robert Pattison, yet I'm still straight. She's just growing up,my goodness.